Hello Everyone,
Him not discussing it sounds a bit odd. I do have to say and this is just a guess. Maybe he thought that his girlfriend wouldnt approve of the friendship one time relationship. So out of respect for her decided to keep you at a distance. Maybe he didnt want his girlfriend to feel threatened by your presence. Maybe he didnt know how to tell you that your friendship would be severly altered by his decision to marry and his actions spoke louder than his words. I say all of these things because I too was in your situation. My one time boyfriend and bestfriend, proposed to his girlfriend and didnt say a thing. He told me that she felt threatened by our friendship and relationship. His family loves me and they try not to talk about me in front of her so that there wont be any intimidation. She couldnt see why he and I were so close. She also felt that he must be hiding something because she should be everything he needs in a friend. (those are just some things to think about that happened in my situation)
As a result he and I don't talk like we use to and he tries to have a friendship with me behind her back. (All of that is not cool) My question to you is have you ever met his girlfriend, if she is the reason for all of that maybe you can foster a friendship with her and he wont feel like he has to keep important moments in his life from you.
By the way there is an article in Essence Magazine's November issue called Strictly Platonic discussing if men and women can be "just friends." (p.106) check it out its a good read guys.
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