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Originally posted by jazbri:
Some women feel that if they concede or if they compromise in a relationship they feel that they are being submissive. Some women feel that if they hold their tongue and 'pick their battles' they're allowing their men to get over on them! Some women feel that if they choose the man that may not have all of the very same credentials they themselves have, they are somehow settling. I recognize these characteristics within myself and my peers....
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...But after re-reading the title, aren't these characteristics that
many non African American women (especially Caucasion women) have as well? Respectfully, I would like to bring a few points to the forefront:
I've viewed many mixed couples, and to be honest, I've never seen this "tongue-in-cheek" Caucasion woman that I've heard is fantasized about by these brothers. At the risk of stepping on toes (sorry, but it's my opinion), many (not ALL) of these women are
very beligerent, obnoxious, and are trying to emulate the stereotypical "sista girl" that I resent because I personally do not feel that I carry myself in that manner. They do not display the characteristics of the epitome of womanhood, especially in the lower echelons of society (to put it nicely) and this is usually what is chosen. And when I've seen upper class non-african american women with a brother, it's usually
after he's gotten successful. On the other hand, many sista's have been with the brothers when they've had nothing, and suddenly, now that they're successful, we are no longer good enough... we have too many emotional hang ups.
It is frustrating to see these women "tolerated", to see our brothers "yes ma'aming" and "no ma'ming" them, simply because of their skin color. Yet, when we've held our tongues for too long and enough is enough, have opinions, and are strong --- then we're "trippin'".
No, I do not think that there is anything wrong with the Black Woman
in general. We all have areas that we need to improve in, but that's across all races. If a black man chooses to be with a woman of a different ethnicity, that's fine --- especially if he chose her because he
truly fell in love with her. But we are not to blame.
Oh --- and AMEN to DoggyStyle's comment.