MissDiamond,
The e-mail that I received entitled "Why Are Black Women Scaring Off Their Men?" was not the question that initiated my soul searching. The point of my topic was to analyze 'me' the black female. I do think that it is healthy to pay attention to my actions and to conduct an inventory of myself. Only through these actions am I able to grow. I am not on a soap box to negatively portray the black female. My attempt was to simply receive feedback from our peers to understand their thoughts on some of the areas that we may or may not need improvement. Apparently you don't feel that we do and I respect your opinion. I guess it's your tone that I found to be condescending. I don't know if you've taken the opportunity to thoroughly read the comments I've posted because in no way have I stated "In order for us to truly be in touch with our feminine centers" and to keep our men from running to the white woman, we have to put the black man ahead of our own personal achievements and goals". Again, I'd like to quote that I am not in agreement with any black male/female for that matter justifying his/her CHOICE to date outside of his/her race based on their negative experiences with the black male/female. On another note, I truly do not beat myself up about my marriage. I'm simply using my marriage in this thread as a platform to speak on relationship issues. I'm thoroughly over it and have completely moved on. I have, as anyone in my position should, evaluated myself and am cognizant of my own issues. To address another point you made, I really don't understand how any one person can be SUPERIOR to another. I believe that I'm no better than the next man/woman. I also don't think that holding my tongue allows my man to feel more masculine. Nor did I state that it would, I believe you've added that in to my point. If I chose to argue over every minute issue in a relationship, I don't think I'd gain much enjoyment from it. I simply choose to pick my battles.
In closing, I feel that you and I have some similar views and others that are quite disparaging.
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