I know that I've found a huge, bitter, horse pill for all of us females to swallow. I know, I've truly blown up our spot! I'd rather have to swallow that big bitter pill rather than live in denial of my ways. Anyway, to answer the question of "What is the proper role of a male?" I'd first start off by saying that because I'm not a man I can't really identify with what makes a man or what is the proper role for a man. Being a female, I can obviously state what my purpose and my desired goals are in a relationship and can respond with some degree of intelligence as to how my peers are doing. In any event, I can tell you what I'd desire in a man. He needs to know and love God. He'd have to love and respect himself first and foremost. He'd need to have a 'true love and respect' for women. I've experienced some men who didn't love themselves first and could not obviously love me. I think that a lot of men look at and feel desire for women; however, they don't have a basic love and respect for them. It's that kind of love that I believe mommas and grandmommas have to instill in them. I have found it to be a rare breed of man that have that true love. I hope yall can get where I'm coming from. So my 'recipe' for this man has love and respect for himself and the same for my species. The fourth ingredient would be honesty. A fifth ingredient would be patience. Patience for me and all of my shortcomings as well as for himself. My sixth ingredient would be humbleness in spirit. I'd take all of that and mix that up with an intense sexuality. I'm a keep it real with yall. I'm not talking about just 'bedroom sex'. I mean the kind of brother that makes you feel that inner sensuality throughout your being. In my recipe, that man has to celebrate that I am not only his woman but that I am woman. I could probably go on for much, much longer than this post could allow so I'm gonna shut up now cuz' I think I covered the most important stuff!
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