goodness
my my my, ok i agree disagree and don't know, but i appreciate all that was said. hmmmm well let me ask this, why did the black woman all of a sudden feel the need to take care of her self so much and her family/community, could it be that the black man with all his oppression etc. was not getting the job done
someone had to take up the slack. my boyfriend is younger then me and still has many years before he gets his degree (if he gets it, cause they are not easy to come by) but i believe in him. he doesn't have a nice car, it runs, its clean. he is intelligent, but i'm more cultured so to speak. i make more money then him, drive a nicer car, i technically am the breadwinner, you know if i looked at it from these perspectives then i would be lowering my standards, its not fair, but unfortunately many many sisters unless they choose to remain single or marry outside their race will have to marry men who are not on their economic or educational level, but as long as he is ambitious, loves you and is going for his then i don't see the problem, that's just life, that's the plate we were handed as blacks in this country, but it will not always be that way, i hope, eventually the majority of the brothers have got to rise to the occassion, so we don't always have to.