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Originally posted by jazbri:
I recently received an e-mail about a black male who was explaining why 'he sold out'. His selling out was to exercise his option of exclusively dating non-black females. He listed every reason under the sun that portrayed the black female as a negative, triflin', unappreciative, uncouth animal. From his experiences, non-black females did not present this challenge.
Being a black female, I was pissed off initially. However, the more I began to think about it, I found that his comments weren't worth justifying. I am now curious to understand what other folk feel about the black female and having relationships with us. I've heard from men (both black and non-black) that there's nothing like a black woman to black women are a complete turn-off and I simply cannot date them any longer. I feel that beneath all of the angry words and recriminations, there's got to be a certain level of truth. Meaning, somewhere along the way, our culture has created within us a tenacity and determination to survive that has eclipsed our black male. Any truth?
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Some years ago, I went to a conference on the "Black" Family and heard some very provocative statistics. Among them, the following hung around in my mind: (1)6 out 10 black college students on the undergraduate level are FEMALE; (2)6 out of 10 black graduates from the graduate level are FEMALE; (3)almost 3/5 of the total "Black" male population is/was incarcerated, while 1/5 are HOMOSEXUAL. What is the balance? Consider this: Most people marry persons of the same economic and educational levels. If the above mentioned are accurate, what does that say about the future of "Black" America? It should tell us that sistas are looking in other arenas for their future husbands and fathers of their children. When you ask me what I think about that guy and his experience/choice, I wont respond to it. He has to experience what he has to.
As for how I feel about sistas, I'M INTO DEEP , DARK CHOCOLATE! I have traveled a bit; and have had some experiences with women of different cultures-primarily Latin and Asian ladies. I can't explain it but, I just LOVE my sistas! Yall's personalities cannot truly be categorized, and GOD himself sculptured each and every one of yall's BODIES! In all, women are women; but I HAVE TO HAVE A SISTA!