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Originally posted by AuLait:
Ape, I have no problem with your scenario in fact many people I know go through the stages you described. I'm not oppossed to much of what you said on that post. All I can say is that if a relationship is important to both, then they will do what they can to make sure its healthy and happy. As far as boredom is concerned, (I can only speak for myself.)i feel that friendship is important. If I or any man or woman can keep a best friend for most of our lives and never get bored or lose excitement in their company then why should that be any different in a relationship. Most of the couples I've been around have successful relationships because they are the best of friends.
What happened to if you care about someone you Make time. I have a friend in a wonderful relationship,her boyfriend always goes on business trips. One night he suprised her with a midnight picnic full of candles,flowers and her favorite music. She was in bed at the time so she woke up not looking her best but she says that he made her feel like the most beautiful woman in the world. Curlers and All. Since then everytime they are apart from eachother they keep a journal of all their thoughts in general and of one another. When they see eachother they switch journals, so when the person is about to leave again they read what the other person wrote. (I think its a great form of communication for long distance relationships) In her book she has added pictures, taken excerpts from other nice love letters and so on. She pasted a scent of her perfume on a page of his book. Writes him surprise notes and letters etc.. When they have children they plan on showing their books to the kids. They've been together for 5 years and still very much in love.
As far as honesty is concerned. No one said that being honest is painless. I also don't feel that asking for honesty is unrealistic. I perfer being told the truth than to believe someone I love doesnt love me anymore. If its an affair then no man or woman should be robbed of the opportunity to choose whether they want to stay and work things out or leave. Yes I would be hurt, there is no doubt about that but I would at least have the opportunity to heal and eventually move on.
Maybe you are right maybe some women let themselves go after they have the relationship they wanted but you can't tell me that the statement doesnt hold true for some men as well.
Honesty shouldnt be something you have to ask for, it should be one of the things that special someone possess. Not just because it means something to you but because its an important attribute for themselves.
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I'm sorry I'm just getting back to you on this. I agree; the statement holds true irrespective of gender. I really like that part about honesty.
I have a question on this topic. Is the American version of marriage THE ONLY GOD-ORDAINED VERSION? Could he also ordain a multi-wife marriage/setting?