[The Original Ape]

Originally posted by Sexy Mocha:
If he was still with his baby mama wouldn't he have to pay all these expenses anyway? And what about her? Remember, she has to pay rent too, not to mention utility bills which is usually sky high with two kids in the house. I'm sure she has auto insurance to pay for as well. Think about it this way, I'm sure your boy sees his children every chance he gets, but momma is a full time mother and father to them kids All day, everyday What I'm curious about is this.....what would he be doing with the money if child support wasn't eating up his check? He has a place to live, a car, the basic necessities of life....does he realize that when he went out and made two children there wouldn't be that much EXTRA CASH floating around. Sometimes being a parent means you can't do/enjoy the things you want to do or used to do. You can't wear fly clothes, or go out as often because those kids will always be there. As long as they're happy, there should be no complaining.
Now, on the flip side.....(y'all know I'm a gemini, so I always have two perspectives )...if baby mama is sitting at home...or even if she works...and she's not spending a dime of her cash flow on the kids and she just waits around for SUPPORT to pay for everything including her own personal needs...then there's something wrong! I know there are those scandalous women out there who use child support checks to get their hair done, new clothes for themselves, etc. meanwhile, the children get what ever's left. THAT is definitely not kosher! It's child support, not "since he left me, I'm gonna make this n*gga pay" support. So, I can definitely feel your man if he's in a situation like that. Otherwise, I don't know...just pay the child support and stop complaining....it may be a while, but they'll be eighteen eventually. Of course, we all know he still has to keep supporting them financially after that, but it wouldn't be coming directly out of his paycheck and it wouldn't be that much....it shouldn't be much anyway. Well, that's my two cents.

If he and his former girl lived together, he wouldn't have to pay(as long as the house/apartment was in his name). As I mentioned earlier, he is a good father. Whenever we go play basketball, or pool or whatever, he takes his kids with us and we all have a good time. He used to be one of the best dressers around-until he had his children. The child support agency doesn't guarantee visitation rights;nor does it guarantee that the support money is actually spent on the children. It has no checks and balances system; they just deduct the money from the parents check, cut a check for the custodial parent and mail it to them. My boy's baby mama now is on that sh*t; and because he got into trouble once(assaulted a police officer who abused his rights), he probably wouldn't win custody of his kids. that witch is lame! His only complaint is how unfair the system is. If the intent of the system is to make absentee parents totally responsible when it comes to the children, shouldn't that system be sensitive to the paying parents real income when they determine the monthly payment?