If he was still with his baby mama wouldn't he have to pay all these expenses anyway? And what about her? Remember, she has to pay rent too, not to mention utility bills which is usually sky high with two kids in the house. I'm sure she has auto insurance to pay for as well. Think about it this way, I'm sure your boy sees his children every chance he gets, but momma is a full time mother
and father to them kids
All day, everyday What I'm curious about is this.....what would he be doing with the money if child support wasn't eating up his check? He has a place to live, a car, the basic necessities of life....does he realize that when he went out and made two children there wouldn't be that much EXTRA CASH floating around. Sometimes being a parent means you can't do/enjoy the things you want to do or used to do. You can't wear fly clothes, or go out as often because those kids will always be there. As long as
they're happy, there should be no complaining.
Now, on the flip side.....(y'all know I'm a gemini, so I always have two perspectives
)...if baby mama is sitting at home...or even if she works...and she's not spending a dime of her cash flow on the kids and she just waits around for
SUPPORT to pay for
everything including her own personal needs...then there's something wrong! I know there are those scandalous women out there who use child support checks to get their hair done, new clothes for themselves, etc. meanwhile, the children get what ever's left.
THAT is definitely not kosher! It's
child support, not "
since he left me, I'm gonna make this n*gga pay" support. So, I can definitely feel your man if he's in a situation like that. Otherwise, I don't know...just pay the child support and stop complaining....it may be a while, but they'll be eighteen eventually. Of course, we all know he still has to keep supporting them financially after that, but it wouldn't be coming directly out of his paycheck and it wouldn't be that much....it
shouldn't be much anyway. Well, that's my two cents.