Have any of you bruhs been in love, messed around on yo girl, AND TOLD HER? What happened? Did you lose her? Was it worth it to tell?
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Very interesting topic... My response is lengthy, so be prepared. After dropping out of college and having a child with my now, ex-husband, at the age of 20. We had constant arguments and fights (typical of two post-teenagers shacking up). We broke up for 4 months only to reconcile and get married. We had both decided, prior to us getting married, that if either one of us were to get 'pregnant' by someone outside of our relationship we would be cool with it due to the time of separation. In hindsight, he set me up to agree to this so that I would be prepared for what was to come. We got married two months after our reconciliation and I was a couple of weeks pregnant with our 2nd child at the time of our marriage. By the fourth month of our marriage he said "Oops- you know, someone is pregnant with my child." Of course, leading me to believe that this child was conceived when we were separated. By the 7th month of our marriage (I'm also 7 months pregnant at this time), I receive a nice certified 5-page letter from 'baby momma' for him that has pictures of a child that's about a year old. Hence, baby was conceived when we were TOGETHER!!! He blamed the whole entire situation upon me and never took responsibility for his actions. I attempted to pick up the threads of our marriage and go through counseling and welcomed a child that wasn't mine and my newborn to our 'happy' household. Why, you may ask, am I airing my dirty laundry? I'd like you brothers to really think about the original post. When you do decide--and pay attention to YOU DECIDING- to go out there and cheat, think about your 'real responsibility' to that act. Meaning, yes, I am jumping in bed with someone outside of my relationship; therefore, I have to really be responsible for ANY and EVERYTHING that may come of it. Now, a lot of you bruhs, will be quite responsible and may have been a man and actually informed your significant other of what you had committed prior to marriage. Unfortunately, my ex didn't. Honestly, it's not the cheating that killed our marriage. It was the inability to accept the responsibility for the action and the failure to respect me enough to allow ME the opportunity to make an informed decision. What would you have done?
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