Sisterfriend NowOrNever, I agree we've all got them, but I have heard of no one like your cousin. I can't believe all of that can happen to one person in one lifetime, and I pray that she gets her walk with God right if she sincerely wants to go into the ministry.
Since I had all that to say, I may as well speak on my relative. I've got several - especially on my dad's side. The one that takes the cake is my ghetto (but nowhere near ghettofabulous) third cousin Veronica. She's about 20 years old and has 2 kids. She dropped out of school in 9th grade, has been fired from several fast food jobs, and has no real plans to do any better for herself. (I would love to try to save her, but what's the point if she doesn't want to save herself?) Veronica hangs around my first cousin who is disturbingly fake, stuck on herself, and thinks the world revolves around her. I give her credit for being successful in the real estate game, but she's got issues like everyone else.
The kicker between these two opposites: Veronica looks up to my cousin because she has money, a fabulous house, and a great lifestyle. Veronica's solution to gaining a luxurious lifestle like our cousin's was not to return to school or even work hard. This dumb broad gave up her first child to foster care because "he cost her too much money".
The second child came along after she gave up the first, and she's no better with this one. My first cousin could possibly have more influence than anyone else in helping Veronica correct her ways and be a more responsible person, but they just hang out together. It's just sad, sad, sad.