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Originally posted by Sexy Mocha:
You have never lied! People ARE less willing to work hard to make the relationship work these days. The initial attraction is always a pretty good indication of how deep the relationship will be... which is why relationships like that never endure,because it's based on something superficial from the start. What puzzles me is this... How does one truly know if the relationship is worth the extra effort and time? I have seen it plenty of times where a woman/man has been involved with someone for two years plus, just to have the relationship end. Are we supposed to look at it as one of life's many lessons and move on or after a certain time span of being with someone are we SUPPOSED to stick it out? Want to hear my philosophy on life?  I believe life is a series of tests that we are put through. The reasons some of us find ourselves going through the same problems over and over is because we haven't learned the lesson God is trying to teach us. (We keep failing the test.) Once we as men/women learn that no relationship will work without some good hard work, then maybe our generation can start having the relationships/marriages that last for 40, 50 years plus like our grandparents and great grandparents enjoyed!
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I agree with everything you said.
One way to tell if it's worth staying is to see if you're still invited to spend "cheap" time with him. Know what I mean? If he's willing to take you with him to all kinds of places.
Another way is watching what happens when yall disagree with each other. Do you flip a coin, or does either of you just say"____ it!" If yall solve yall's problems by making concessions to each other, IT'S STILL WORTH IT. If you play the pride game-simply wait it out-it's time to go.
Remember. Us brothas are raised to keep our emotions to ourselves...expressing pain or pleasure is the act of the weak.