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Originally posted by Sexy Mocha:
Before a man starts thinking of ways to tell his woman that she has slacked off, it's always best to try and figure out WHY she has become this way. If it's because she's unhappy or depressed, find the cause...and help her through her problems. Now, if old girl has gotten it in her head that now that she's "got" her man, she can let herself go...then that's another story. In a case like that, there should be no hesitation in telling her the truth. It also depends on your definition of "letting herself go". If it's just weight gain, it could be that it's hereditary or because of multiple child births in which case it's something that she has no control over. But there's no reason why she should be neglecting all other aspects of herself. Personally, I think a woman should always keep herself looking "tight". I mean, I don't think a man should leave his woman because she has let herself go (love should be unconditional...I guess )but I certainly could understand how the attraction could diminish.
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Hey Sexy! It's good to hear from you again!
Love SHOULD be unconditional, but IT RARELY IS in the real world. In fact, it's more visual than spiritual today. It's there, then it disappears.
I see two causes for this occuring: 1) people are less patient with relationships today; less willing to struggle to make them work, and 2)whatever attracts you to a person initially will tell you the nature of your feelings for that person. If the first thing you notice(and attracts you)about a brotha is his ass, you should know that the nature of any relationship you develop with him will initially be physical. If it's his clothes, car, or house, then it's what he possibly can do for you materially. If it's his smile, or his wit, then it may have a genuine foundation. The key is to recognize what it was about a person that intially attracted you to him/her. A person's physique, and material assets ARE CONDITIONAL.