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Kids find out that people aren't always nice to them in much better ways than being bullied. For example, when your best friend doesn't want to play with you for one reason or another - thats a way to learn that no one is nice to you all the time.
Bulling and namecalling serves no good. On the first day of Kindergarten, I was deemed to be fat. I was not fat. I was a little on the squishy side, but, I think it made me cute. But someone decided I was. And the other kids picked up on it. So everyone knew me as "the fat girl."
Has that helped me in later life? Not a damn bit! Has it hurt me? Yes, very much so. I'd say my body issues are much more exacerbated than a normal woman's. Why? Because every day from age 6 to about 14 I was told I was fat. The only reason that I have any sort of self-esteem is because I know I'm a million times smarter than those assholes. And they could give me trouble every day of the year, but they had to deal with me on awards day. I had the highest average of basically every class for the entire 9 years I was at my grammar school.
In the end, though, I know I have fared better than they. I'm in graduate school, have a wonderful boyfriend, and have a pretty great life. Most of the ones who gave me hell and were oh-so-cute when they were 10 look like they're about 45 now, have a few kids outa wedlock and are stuck in our hometown. Would I tease them if I got the chance, though? Not at all.
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