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Originally posted by pinkyphimu
this is a great idea, but what if it doesn't help? i recently attended an event at my collegiate chapter and met some of the women there. i graduated 5 years ago, and i live 6 hrs away, and i have managed to get to 1 rush and 1 initation. so some of the women confide in me that things are not ok. i offer to do what i can to help....our alums had already been discussing some things. i get back home and send info to these ladies right away....and i hear NOTHING!!! none of the alums who offered their help that night have heard anything either! so, how many times do you email before you give up? my chapter has meant a lot to me. i want to help, but it is hard to help people who don't want help.
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I think it is very, very hard for the collegiate members sometimes to admit that things are not going well. They've been entrusted with the chapter and want to feel like they are making the alums proud. All you can do is keep in touch and say you're there if they need you. Eventually it will sink in. I know when I was in school, we had horrid alum relations - one of our alums worked in the student life office and basically wanted nothing to do with us. Needless to say we didn't feel too warm & fuzzy about her. Well I resolved that I would do my part to prevent things like that. It took a long time to change our chapter's culture from "alums are pains in the ass" to "alums are fun people and want to help" but we eventually did.