1. If I met you, we hit it off, you asked for my #, I expect you to call THE NEXT DAY. I will allow some slack there and say the day after that is OK, but my attentiion will be waniing at that point. Anything past 2 days and not only will I not answer the phone, but its unlikely I will call back. That reeks of ambivalence to me and I don't need to go out with someone who is not stoked to be w me.
Case in point: I met mr. amycat on a saturday night at a party. We last saw one another at about 3am. He called me at 1030am the following morning. We made a date for 3 days later. He called everyday between then and the date. In fact, he's called me everyday since I met him.
I know this will seem excessive to a lot of people, but I just believe if its there, its THERE and there IMMEDIATELY. Or, it is for me, at least. if its not there right away, it just doesn't happen.
2. He should call first. Asking for my # shows some interest, but, as we know, the # doesn't always get used. PROVE you are interested by calling. The sooner the better (see point #1).
3. If boy asks me out for Friday and I have plans and I am really INTO him and EXCITED about him, I will cancel those plans and go out with him. I will not tell him I had plans tho. I believe being spontaneous, especially in the beginning stages of a relationship, is important.
if those plans are absolutely uncancellable, I will suggest a day that's better for me, and hopefully, by the time we hang up, a date is set.
I am sure a lot of you guys will say OMG you are so high maintenance. Yeah, I suppose I am, but this is what I like-- I like to know someone is excited about me. Showeriing me w attentiion shows this.
BUT--I must be into you as well. If not, then its creepy. lol Its a fine line we walk... lol But, truth is, if I'm into you, I'll answer the phone. (I don't think any call of mr. amycat's has been screened or gone to voice mail, ever. lol) If I'm not, I'll screen and debate about calling back. And once that debate starts, its over, cause face it, you don't really want someone going out w you that's ambivalent about you, either.
Fortunately, Mr. amycat's rules of attraction were remarkably similar to mine. We've seen each other every single day for going on 4 of the 5 months we've been together. (Except for the 7 days one of us was out of town -- 5 days for me, 2 for him, lol)
Amy