I posted on this thread back in June - but after reading how various schools handle the situation where a girl is cut across the board or doesn't get a bid, I have to express my frustration at the way my school does things. PNMs are NOT called or visited ahead of time. The PNMs all show up and wait in the corridor, and one by one their rho chi takes them into a room and hands them their invites/bids or tells them "we're sorry, you were cut". So when someone is cut, all the waiting PNMs see her leave in tears.
I'm also a bit frustrated that we don't have a big rho chi revealing event - I think that would have been fun - but we allowed PNMs to defer their decisions for 3 days, so rho chis had to stay deaffiliated for 3 days after bid day.
ZTABullwinkle - I assume you mean she was picked up right after formal rush by the sorority she ISP'd. I didn't think that was allowed... or is that one of those things that varies from school to school?