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Originally posted by korkscru
Love_Spell_6, I said this just to say that it IS possible to be friends (or atleast CIVIL) with your ex. HOWEVER, there HAS TO be CLOSURE about things that went wrong in your relationship with him BEFORE that can happen. Only you and he will be able to determine if a friendship is possible.
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girl did you say CLOSURE?? that is always key. if two people can agree that what happened in the past is over and that they are ready to move forward and just say "bygones" then i think it is possible to move forward as friends.
saying that, an ex of mine from high school (we broke up in college) and i still don't talk. when we see each other, we always end up getting in an argument about "tish" that went on in college. "you did this." and "you did that to me" so i had to tell him to call me when he had reached some closure and had forgiven me for what i had done or not done to him. i wish him all the luck in the world with his new girl and life but i didn't need that sort of drama.
and i think that when you are faced with an ex that hasn't moved passed the past and still wants to brew in that anger and wants you to feel bad, guilty and angry too, you have to be the bigger person to say: "uh, you need to call me when you're ready to GET OVER IT." sometimes hell, we as women (us baggage-carriers), need to be told that too.... can i get an AMEN????
sorry that was just tooo long.