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Originally posted by sigmagrrl:
This statement truly disturbs me! Why ISN'T the new member period a time of bonding and friendship to you?? The new member period should not be filled with stress and anxiety  , nor should it be a time of doubt in a woman's life. It should be a time when all of her reasons for joining are affirmed and validated and she becomes comfortable with her new family...  [This message has been edited by sigmagrrl (edited April 28, 2001).]
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Sigmagrrl, I don't see why this is disturbing to you. College in general is not all warm and fuzzy, so why should pledging be any different? There are all types of stressors out there, it's a part of life. If you are in college and pledging, which is often the case, then you will be stressed. Period. I know when I was on line I had a job, classes, family responsibilities, etc. plus I had to complete all the requirements needed to be initiatiated. They have a word for that: multi-tasking. Yes, I was stressed. And?
In addition, just because you are put under "stress/anxiety" while pledging does not mean you aren't creating friendships and/or bonding with your linesisters or big sisters. Often times the strongest relationships are relationships created in times of stress and anxiety.
Sigmagrrl, I am not talking about creating stress by the threat/fear of physical punishment. That is something different altogether. I am sure 12dn94dst wasn't speaking about that either. Correct me if I am wrong, Miss Kelli.
I think the problem is that whenever an individual in a BGLO talks about "stress/anxiety" while pledging it is often taken to mean beating the crap out of someone. There is a diffrence.