Chrissy,
It's good to see more & more people doing their research before just going blindly though rush. Although I'm not yet in a sorority I will be going through informal rush this upcoming semester. I am so sorry to hear that people have been telling you these things & that you had to see them on tv. At first I got all of those responses too, but once I started getting to know Greeks at school, I knew that the others were wrong. I'm not sure what your campus will be like, but at mine a large number of the girls are still virgins & have been in the sorority going on 3 years, & also alot of them don't drink. Also about that whole fraternity favors thing, I've been friends with Greek guys since I was a sophomore in High School (we all know how guys can talk
) & I have honestly never heard of anything like that. My advice, would be to go ahead & research the Greek orgs at your college or at a few if you're not sure where you're going. Check out their web pages & even try e-mailing a few of the girls. Greek orgs vary SO much from campus to campus that the only way to really know, is to research (but none should include any of the above!)
Hope that helps some
Allison