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MOXIEGIRL-
I totally agree on the point about ED occurances in sororities. They are much more noticeable in sororities than just a group of friends, I think, because we have sooo many events we go to with one another, even if we don't have a chapter house where we all live together. In my chapter, and I'm sure many others, we often go out to eat after nearly every weekly meeting, as well as for sisters' birthdays, etc, as well as eating together during retreats, mixers, etc.
This definitely can cause an silent competition between sisters, because as females we are always judging ourselves against others' size, shape, beauty, and eating habits. Sorority women are much more likely to experience these things 10-fold, because they spend so much more time with such a large group of females than most non-Greeks do. Also, we compare ourselves to girls in other sororities. We not only compare ourselves to "thinner" girls, but to larger girls as well. We think, "am I thinner than her?", "will I end up like her?". No matter how thin or how fat we feel, there are always people who are thinner and fatter.
I'm glad (in a sad kinda way) that someone on here has had a similar experience to me. I, too, have have had to stumble to make up something in reply to the, "Have you lost weight?", "How did you lose so much weight?", "Are you on a diet or something?" etc, from my sisters and others. I'll usually go, "uh uh...I just cut out fattening stuff", or "I'm actually exersizing now", etc, when really I'm only eating 500 or less calories a day most of the time on top of some exersizing, and lying, "I already ate, but I'll go sit with you at the restaurant and get a diet Pepsi".
My sisters are starting to notice more, but I'm sure they don't think it's anything serious. One day at a Mexican restaurant one of my sisters said, "You never eat!" and I said "Yes I do!" and she said "If you don't eat, I'm gonna be mad." But I lied about an upset stomach & said I'd just get a soda & munch on some chips. It hurts me to decieve my sisters about that, but as with anyone, we all have secrets that we keep completely to ourselves and don't even tell our closest friends or family.
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