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"All in fun"
It worries me to see people doing disturbing things to women and then saying "It's all in fun."
There's a lot of talk here about the reputation of the Thetas, but I'm a lot more concerned about the Sigma Chis. What does it say about these guys that they would have fun degrading a girl this way -- even when it's "all in fun"? Maybe the seniors are reading the women carefully to determine who is enjoying herself and who feels pressured (maybe)...but what about the pledges? What lesson are impressionable 18-year-old boys going to carry away from this party? Is it going to be "Consenting adults can enjoy themselves however they please," or is it going to be, "These sorority women love to humiliate themselves for us; they're here for our entertainment; it's cool to degrade chicks!"
The pictures with the kneeling women reminded me of something that happened to a good friend of mine when she was a freshman. She went to a fraternity party at UVA, met a guy she liked, and eventually performed a certain activity on him in what she thought was a private area of the house. At the conclusion of said activity, he pointed to the window...and she saw six of his brothers clapping. He admitted he'd set the whole thing up, but told her it was all in fun because he thought she would be into that.
She wasn't. And it took her years to get over it. A lot of UF women are going to have experiences like my friend -- or worse -- if the guys all learn from their big brothers that women love it when you treat them like crap.
Ivy
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