Alright, here is the deal,
First off, if he doesn't take care of his grades then he will never even make it on line, so when I told him to focus on his grades, I believe that I was telling him correctly.
Secondly to the person who said that "you will never get a straight answer from the greeks on this board" you are correct. There is only so much that can be divuldged, and like I said, processes differ from chapter to chapter. Each chapter has thier own traditions that they uphold.
If I were him, I would not even worry about being beat down, when the time(IF)it comes, then he can deal with that. The most important thing to do is to try to be the type of person that someone would want in thier frat. I don't care how much you want to be in a frat, if they don't want you, then you ain't gon make it in. PERIOD. Focus on your grades, getting to know the brothers of that chapter, and community service.
As far as who pledged harder, who is more a brother. This stuff is not new. All fraternities have been dealing with this issue for many decades now. Brothers from the 80s figure they plegded harder than the 90 brothers, brothers from the 70s think that they pledged harder than the 80s brothers, and so on and so forth. Basically it comes down to a (excuse me for this one ladies) "A dick messuring contest" to see who has the biggest.
"I pledged for 20 weeks," "I pledged for a year" "I went to the hospital", this becomes silly and tiresome.
Look, I came into my fraternity via an Alumni Chapter. Now there is a certain stigma attached to coming in via Alumni. I know my long and rocky journey to Kappa. Do you think for one minute that I would alow someone to question my right to wear these beloved letters. Hell naw, if we gotta argue, trade wood, or fight, so be it.
First off, you must know your shit, secondly you must work you butt of and earn the respect of your brothers. It takes way more than an ass whipping. Any fool can take an ass whipping. But are you willing to work, and get your hands dirty for the frat? That's what brothers look at.
You can do your 4 - 6 week process, and then do nothing for the frat, and brothers will call you a sorry ass frat brother after all the ass whipping that you took.
Ok, I get long winded, basically man, just focus on you, everyone here is going to give you different advice. Work on your grades, knowing the brothers, and community service. Be a good person, it is the best way to ensure that you will be a good frat brother.
Peace and Luv to all
MN
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