I think some people/groups of people take the whole pleding/hazing thing too far. I am a member of a BGLO and I definitely want true sorors in my organization, but not at the expense of getting sued and having my chapter stripped. And we all have seen cases of this occuring. I believe that the women who are pledging should go through a process, but NO, I don't think we should beat them senselessly and try to break them down mentally/physically to the point where it creates problems. I have spoken with males of certain BGLOs who have told me that their process lasted for up to three years! I can only speak for myself (because my views don't necessary reflect those of my chapter or my sorority as a whole), but is this REALLY necessary?
Hazing is both a white and black issue, it's just done differenly by both groups. Both can result in negative consequences. I think there should be a limit to what we put people through. Just because someone is beat every night with a paddle doesn't necessary mean that person will be dedicated member. Just because you force some one to drink shots all night and then walk through snow naked doesn't mean that he will be a productive member. Many times these same people that you helped pledge are the same ones who fail to pay their dues or participate in community service events. Yeah, they get hazed, but only because they want to belong.
I have spoken with frat guys who told me that the process they went through DID NOT make them bond with those who pledged them. Even after they crossed they did not have strong, positive relationships. Some say that if they knew then what they know now they would have bypassed undergrad. What does this say about the hazing that people are subjected to. The only way I would not have love for a soror is if she didn't know her history, wasn't active, or financial. If she contributes to the sorority and exemplifies all the positive qualities that we are taught to possess, then she is okay with me.
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