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Sorry your friend is disappointed. Maybe the clue is a fake one to throw her off. I'll keep my fingers crossed.
I did get my first choice in a big sister, but I was not so lucky in little sisters. My sophomore year, an upperclassman wanted the little sister that I wanted (she wanted me, too), so the little sister I wanted got her and my little sister was someone I was not close to. This was back in the olden days when the pledge period was a whole semester--my little sister didn't make her grades, but the one that I wanted did! The next year I got the little sister I wanted, but she didn't make her grades either.
The only little sister I had who was initiated was my freshman year when our chapter was the big sister chapter for a new chapter at another university. She now lives in my hometown and works with one of my blood sisters!
The bottom line is that everyone in your chapter is a sister and the big/little relationship should not preclude any friendships. I understand how special that relationship is though, and I understand her disappointment.
With the shortened pledge periods now, it might be hard to really get to know everyone in a chapter before this decision has to be made. If your friend didn't get her choice, I hope she will get to know whoever is her big sister and form a strong relationship with her. Either way, I hope this does not cloud her sorority experience because the alum part of it lasts a whole lot longer than the active part does!
Good luck to you and your friend!
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