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Its not a good thing. Its definitely not a good thing.
I am not going to say anything physical is going on but you don't need him to be emotionally unavailable because part of his mind is still focused on his ex-girlfriend.
I mean there is nothing mystical about human mental attention. Try to pay attention to two things in the physical world, it means you are paying less attention to both and constantly shifting back and forth.
The same thing goes for our brain. IF he's partially dealing with her thats less time he is dealing with you.
I am sure he is telling you the truth as he believes it. But we lie to ourselves exquisitely well.
Out of literally hundreds of people, I have yet to meet an ex-couple that were "just" friends.
They may not have been hooking up still, but there was a kind of "mental sex".
And we have all seen it in our own friends, one Ex always makes more of an effort to keep in touch, and the other one secretly enjoys the attention (even though they don't admit it). There is always something more, an extra component to their relationship.
I wouldn't destruct my relationship because of this, in fact you have to accept this with his other quirks and not nag him about it.
But at least you know that she comes as part of his package.
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