I was an active AKL at Auburn University (also in Alabama) when this horrible accident occurred. I remember how devastated the chapter at UA was, as were we. It is tremendously uplifting to see how something positive has arisen from this tragedy, my thoughts and prayers continue to be with this young man's family, brothers and friends.
To answer some questions, yes, AKL is an open fraternity. That is, there are no "secrete" rituals, signs, symbols, etc. Rather than swearing a new brother to secrecy, we view such things in a slightly different way than many other fraternities. Focusing on the brotherhood aspects of the fraternity, it is explained to pledges that we are a family, and just like your own biological family, there are some things that remain within the family and are not discussed with those outside the family. Some symbolism, the details of our initiation, etc. are such topics that are closely held, though not technically secrete. However, to quote from the national website (
http://www.akl.org/national/tradition.htm ) “The painted original of the Coat of Arms remains, and is one of the treasured possessions of the Fraternity. Members are encouraged to explain the heraldic symbols and insignia to non-members. We are quite proud of our Coat of Arms or "crest" as it is sometimes referred.” It is made abundantly, though discretely, clear which topics can be talked about with non-members and which can’t. Like binks noted, randoms can’t just wander up and ask to watch certain activities, that is simply not going to happen. However, if the chapter so desires, individuals that are not members of the organization can be invited to attend such events. We never had a non-member view any of our rituals while I was an active. Personally, I think it is entirely appropriate and wonderful that Ed’s father was invited to stand in his son’s place during initiation even though he is an initiated SAE. At our chapter, our weekly chapter meetings were open to invitees and the parents of members, especially pledges, were invited and encouraged to attend…and if they could keep their eyes open through a half hour debate on whether to go with a blue or gray fall formal T-shirt then all the better ;-)