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Originally posted by Fewdfreak
....if I had a kid, I'd have to tend to their needs, and it would get in the way of my perogative. I'm by no means narcissistic or anything, I'm nice, not selfish, etc... buy my career is/needs to be first and foremost. This is what I value.
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Lauren, I think your post shows an amazing amount of maturity. I see so many women who have children for whatever reason and then afterward seem frankly surprised that their life and priorities are supposed to change. I am impressed that you recognize this!
I'm not going to insult you by saying, "Oh Lauren, someday your clock will start to tick and you'll want kids." Maybe you'll change your mind someday, maybe you won't. That is completely up to you to decide and no one else. Kudos for being such a self-aware young woman!
I'm not criticizing mothers who work. I can only imagine what a juggling act that must be to handle work and family and I have a lot of respect for most of them. But the fact is, in our society, the brunt of childrearing expectations fall on the mother and while it is possible to do two fulltime jobs simultaneously at an acceptable level, I think it would be difficult if not impossible to truly excel at either.
Everyone please note:
I am just voicing my opinion. I'm no expert. I know it is a woman's right to have a career and a family at the same time for whatever reason she wants. I know there are working mothers out there who look down on me, who think I'm some parasitic creature living off my husband's fat paycheck, spending money I didn't earn with reckless abandon. That's fine. I can accept that people's opinions differ.
ALSO: I'm not even necessarily talking about working women. I'm talking about any mom who is suddenly surprised to find that the child is a person with needs and not just the latest must-have accessory. This year's Prada bag, if you will
Read the book "The Nanny Diaries". Women like the mother do exist; I know more than a few.