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Ever since I was little I never really wanted kids. When we played house, I never liked taking care of the dolls. Kids, I don't like them. When I am in stores and hear kids crying, sometimes I just want to yell "Someone shut that kid up" even though you really can't. The reasons I don't want kids? First of all, the woman has to be the one to take care of it, has to carry the kid, change it most of the time, and if I were to have a kid, and then get a divorce or whatever, I would be the one that had to be stuck with the kid. I seriously would be like "Ex-hubby, YOU take the kid, it was your sperm!" Secondly, I would have to put my life on hold, it may seem selfish to some who don't share my view, but I am my priority, I don't go out of my way to make others happy, or try and please people, it's just too much work, I do what is good for me, and if I had a kid, I'd have to tend to their needs, and it would get in the way of my perogative. I'm by no means narcissistic or anything, I'm nice, not selfish, etc... buy my career is/needs to be first and foremost. This is what I value. Not to be offensive or anything, but I see so many girls out there willing to settle with men they don't like, or have kids and give it all up, if you really, truly love the child, then more power to you, but I'm not one of these women, I can't understand why one would want to voluntarily have a child, but I applaud those who do, because they often turn out to be the best parents, my parents are the greatest ever, they were just meant to have me and my sister. I'm not like that, I don't like kids. I'm lucky that I have two friends who share this view, (we used to joke that we were the Schopenhauer cult) one is a guy, and wanted to get a vasectomy, and they told him he had to be 21, and the other is a girl, who, like me, is unrelenting in the fact that we do not want children.
I babysat for two years, and my mom thought that it would change me to "like" kids, no, it didn't. They were just a job to me. When people have kids, and everyone is ooohing, and ahhing, I kinda just go with the flow and am like "Yeah, cute, nice, bet you will really like him when he hits the terrible twos." I'm very much detached from kids, and hopefully I will never have any. Although I am only 19, I don't think my views will change much.
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