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I also want kids someday - just not for a long time. I'm seeing a bunch of my recently graduated friends getting married and having kids, and they're not mature enough to take care of themselves half the time, let alone a child. Maybe it's because I'm the oldest on both sides of my family, but I know I'm completely in my "selfish" phase right now. It drives me nuts to see the people who have kids and whine and complain about how needy the are, how expensive they are, etc. That's why I want to wait until I'm absolutely ready to be a mom. My mom told me once that, while she would never take back having me and my sister, she probably would've waited longer because once you're a mom, pretty much your whole life revolves around that role. She's finally to the point where she can start doing stuff for herself now and not have to worry about me and my sister as much, and I can't say I blame her for wishing she would've done more when she was younger.
As for how I'd have them, I'd almost rather adopt than have my own. My mom had a lot of problems having me, which I'm slightly worried about, plus there are so many kids out there who need loving homes. I get worked up enough going into pet stores and looking at the puppies behind the glass, if I actually sat down and thought about all the kids out there without families, I'd be a wreck.
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