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Originally posted by Jhawkalum
Whether people like it or not, fraternities and sororities are private organizations that do have the right to pick and choose their members -- much like country clubs.
Often times women in sororities choose their new members based on common interests, beliefs, and social circles -- if a person has a "standards issue" that clashes with the purpose or the values of a sorority (such as raising a child out of wedlock) they have a right to deny her membership.
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Of course, fraternities and sororities have the right to pick and choose their members. Sometimes this is done using appropriate criteria and sometimes it isn't.
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And if a person flat out lies about that "standards issue", then they probably shouldn't be considered for membership regardless of the circumstances.
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This to me is the real crux of the question that started this thread. If a member began membership in the sorority with a lie and then continues to lie about it, then I would question her integrity. It might be forgivable -- perhaps she was so afraid of rejection that she felt "compelled" to lie -- but I would want to look into it.
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On a practical note, many chapters require their members to live in the house for at least a year -- how are you supposed to do that with a child? Let's be practical people!!!
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On the other hand, on a number of campuses chapters don't have houses at all, or do not have a requirement like this. But if there is such a requirement, then the reason for not extending a bid to a woman with a child would be because she can't comply with the requirement, not because she has a child. And I wouldn't assume that having a child would keep her from living in the house; I'd ask her up front how she would fulfill this obligation.