My chapter had a sister with a child. She was a wonderful, active, spirited addition to her chapter....and her little girl was adorable in her "KD legacy" t-shirt. Yes, she did have problems devoting time to the chapter....but she was there for enough of the important things that I feel we would have missed out on a lot if she was not a part of our sisterhood!
Recruitment is hardly the time to really get to know someone. I think that I would be a bit taken off-guard if I'm prepared to talk about sorority history and a PNM busts out with "Oh, I'm married/divorced/have a child." And I'm sure these women do not want to make it come to that. How do they know that the sisters will not immediately reject them once they find out the truth? We're all aware of the two-faced sorority girl stereotype.
But..........if someone is lying about all kinds of other important that's a different issue completely. The situation surrounding this woman's "other lies" is unclear to me, but is she lying to protect her big lie (i.e. having a child). Maybe then it's forgiveable?
Aphigal: I *loved* your post....rock on, girl
