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I don't know about any other organizations, but my sorority won't allow us to pledge a woman if she is married or has a child. We had a problem with this last year. A girl went through recruitment, and she never lied about having a child, but the sisters who rushed her for some reason saw no reason to tell anyone about it. She got a bid, but when we found out that she was a parent, we had to ask her to de-pledge. There is the image issue, (how will it look to others on your campus). We also couldn't understand what she would really get out of being in a sorority. I guess it just seemed like she wouldn't have anything in common with most of the other girls. Also, why would you want to be spending so much money to join a sorority when you have a child to take care of? If I were her, I would have rather spent that money on my child.
This probably all sounds very superficial to some people, but think about it. It just doesn't seem reasonable to me for a girl with a baby to be in a sorority. Plus, if she lied about it, then that is definatley a reason not to want her in the chapter as far as I am concerned.
I also don't think there is anything wrong with worrying about the image of your chapter. Greek life is a lot about image (sometimes more than it should be), and the image that your chapter gives off is important, even if it is a superficial thing to worry about.
My opinion, if you are even having to question whether or not you want her there, then you should not have to pledge her, and I don't think you should feel guilty if you ask her to de-pledge.
Lindsey
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