[amycat412]

I agree with James.

If he's into you, he's into you and sleeping with him will not make much of a difference.

And really, my friends and I have always wondered, how is it right if we're not being ourselves--I mean, if we're feeling it and the moment is right and we decide NOT to sleep w someone because its the 'RIGHT" thing to do-- well, we're being dishonest too...

I always said the riight guy for me would not be one that wanted to wait to have sex, or thought i was a slut for having sex w him in the first few dates, for me -- the passion is there right away or not at all, its just a fact.

So when I met mr. amycat, I was all hung up on making a good impression and not jumping right into bed with him that I almost blew it. Fortunately, I realized that, called him up, went over there and blew his mind, lol. We joke about it now, but at the time, I realized I was just not even being myself by trying to wait until X amount of dates/time had gone by. That's not who I am and that's not who he is, and by trying to play the role of the good girl, well, I was playing a game and that's never good. And when I stopped trying to play the good girl and just relaxed and was myself, we discovered we were very compatible in many ways in and out of bed, whereas before, besides all the sexual tension keeping us from really connecting, he wasn't getting to know the REAL me, and its the REAL ME he fell in love with, not the "good girl" i was falsely trying to be on our first three dates...and so, I must STRESS...

JUST BE YOURSELF, whomever that is, and one day, you'll meet someone that you absolutely click with. Sounds simple, but its true. Games are not cool.