Leslie Anne,
I read your post in the previous alum thread and I hope you're just having a cranky day.
I live far away from a lot of my chapter sisters too but I keep in touch with them all the time. It's called E-MAIL!!

No, it's not the same as being there, but it does help. If you have the bonds time and distance won't sever them. I went to lunch with a chapter sister I haven't seen in 10 years and it was like I just talked to her yesterday.
As far as the alum association prob, just keep trying to get in touch with them, like e-mailing every other day or something. As a prez of an alumnae chapter I know sometimes real life intrudes on sorority life (how rude!

) and you can't always get back to people asap. In addition, it is sometimes hard to get past the regional differences between collegiate chapters - I'd be lying if I said it wasn't.
plus, I found this link a while back, it is for a KD online newsletter.
http://members.nbci.com/kdonline/ You might be able to hook up with some sisters in your area that way.
At any rate, GOOD LUCK!