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Originally posted by sugar and spice


It's interesting that you mention "trashy" because it's so subjective. And I'm sure it depends very much on where you are. A pimps and hoes mixer is probably frowned upon more in the South than it is in the North, I would bet. I don't think most of the people I know up here would consider a pimps and hoes mixer too trashy. I know that personally, I wouldn't consider that kind of party any trashier than, say, an 80s-themed party (talk about tacky!). And most of the parties I've been to, both Greek and non-Greek, are trashy enough without calling it a "pimps and hoes" party -- the girls still wear skimpy clothes and some people get drunk and do things they will later regret. I don't think that anti-Greek students will look on sororities as especially trashy for having a prostitute-themed mixer when they already assume that we're sluts to begin with.

I know that my sorority does generally try to avoid association with things like this, but every once in a while it's okay to let your hair down and just have fun. We're college students, and nobody expects us to be models of decorum. Although our groups are based on certain ideals, do you think our founders NEVER did anything that made them look silly, foolish, or occasionally even trashy? They were just as human as we are.

Racially insensitive -- yes, that is a legitimate reason to avoid the pimps & hoes-type parties. But trashy? It's such a subjective term. If we truly want to avoid looking trashy, why even throw mixers at all? Instead, we can sit at home doing philanthropy projects and knitting!

Sugar and spice..

You said excatly what I was thinking, minus the PMS. Thanks!