UDZETA,
I can understand your frustrations because I have been there; we all have at one point or another. I too was a part of a very cliquish chapter. There were just certain groups of girls who liked to hang out more with each other than hang out with the rest of us. Which kinda hurt at first because I wanted eveyone to like me but when I realized that their interests and mine were not the same I was okay with it. You said that there are about 15 girls who feel left out? Well the best thing to do would to hang out together more-- have fun and don't let the other girls get to you. It's really not worth it to become all upset. I learned the hard way that not everbody has to be best friends all of the time but that as long as they act sisterly it's okay. Not all of my sisters hung out at the same parties, bars and such but when there was a sisterhood event, meeting, rush, etc., the chapter really came together.
As far as the big-little problem you have-- don't let that get you down either. I had a similar problem when I went through with my big. The girl I wanted as my big was blocked by a bunch of sisters from being a big (long story, NOT her fault) and I ended up having my big "stolen" from me by a girl who did not like her big. The girl I wanted as my big kinda "adopted" me as her little and it worked out okay.
Basically just hang in there! It will get better! If you need anyone to talk with feel free to PM me anytime.
LOTS of Zeta love and mine-
ZTABunny
