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Originally posted by librasoul22
I think I am the exception. I am VERY picky and I think physical appearance weighs heavily on who I date. Not that it can't be overshadowed by other things, of course, but I am extremely selective. For some reason, I can only date men who are extremely physically attractive. Part of me is hoping to grow out of that, but the other part of me wonders, if I DO grow out of it, am I lowering my standards or settling?
Just wanted to offer a different perspective...
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I don't think there's anything wrong with having high standards, really. If you get the hot guys (who are hopefully also good people, of course), go for it!!
My issue revolves around something we talked about in my many communications classes - people tend to pair up with people around the same attractiveness level as themselves. Granted there's some leeway, but for the most part, you'll rarely see someone who's super-hot with someone who not only hit every branch on the ugly tree on the way down but bounced around through the ugly forest for a while too.
Therefore, it only makes sense that very attractive people date other very attractive people. What I don't understand is why guys who are in the 5-7 range go chasing after girls who are 10+ all the time. There are a lot of hot guys I'd LOVE to be with, but it's not going to happen. I know this and I'm fine with it. But when average-looking guys won't give me the time of day, that's when I get frustrated. I know I'm not on the high end of the spectrum, but I'd like to think I'm not some hideous beast-looking girl.
The whole matching thing goes with perceived attractiveness though, and I know a LOT of guys who think they're 10's just because they have a penis. News flash - so does every OTHER GUY out there as a general rule.
On a sort of related note, did you know that when a study was done taking computer images of people's faces - not pictures, but scanned and measured with instruments and showed EXACTLY what the person looked like - only 1 in 10 could correctly identify their picture when it was compared with variations on the image? Self image is a weird thing.