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OK, I have a few comments to make:
1) First, there is behavior that has been documented and studied regarding the way people pursue love interests. One of those behaviors is known as avoidance. Avoidance is basically this: have you ever been so nervous or unsure of yourself? Well, some people reach for things they know they cannot get so that they don't have to risk anything! They aren't going to get hurt, necessarily, because they already know they aren't going to get it. But, let's say you take a risk and ask someone out who may actually say yes?? Please, that's enough to cause some people to pass out! Hence, choosing someone you know is unattainable!
2) The good guys aren't taken. They are usually where the good girls are: home because they think al the good girls are taken, so what's the point! Good men are also shy, so they don't approach you very often. I know they are out there. But, they are as disillusioned as we are! I know that's my issue. I get so flustered around someone I like, that I my mouth forgets how to work!!
3) I am actually a firm believer in two things. First, love will find you when you are ready. Second, you cannot love someone fully and wholely (is that the correct spelling??) until you fall in love with yourself that way. There are reasons love eludes us. I am so happy to have had the wonderful man I did, but he wasn't for me.
There is a beautiful quote that I love to think of when I get a bit into the "Where is he?" phases. And it goes like this:
The person you are looking for is sitting somewhere wondering where you are.
It will happen, have faith and patience...and compassion.
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