|
I think I was kind of "that girl" too. I always made the mistake of believing that these guys wanted to be friends with me, and so I would hang with them and let them call me and such. In the meantime, I would be completely hot for one of their fraternity brothers or something and would be all shocked when they asked me out or came on to me. There was one SAE in particular who was REALLY sweet, and I think a lot of girls would have found him very attractive. He was a little too short for me, but he was cute. Not my type though.....blond hair, blue eyes, kind of preppy-hippie type. SO nice though.....we went to a movie together once in the afternoon on the spur of the moment, and we just kind of hung out together. He gave me an SAE hat to put in the back ledge of my car.....I guess that should have been a warning sign. Anyway he asked me to date party, just casually, as friends, or so I thought. Well in the meantime I started hanging out with this brother of his who was completely evil and demonic, but he was exactly my cup of tea and I had been interested in him for awhile. Well, he asked me to date party too, and since I considered him my boyfriend, naturally I wanted to go with him. So when I told "John" (names have been changed to protect the innocent!) he pretended to understand and everything but I found out he was really upset!!!!!! He ended up going to the party with one of my sisters and it was really awkward, he kind of watched us all night and drank a lot, and it was just all-around bad vibes.
Something I learned is that you cannot beat these guys over the head and make them wake up. Even if he knows that he isn't in those girls' "league" if that is what he is attracted to he is going to continue to chase them. My advice would be to find a "hottie" of your own, be happy, and watch your friend keep falling on his face going after the plastic chicks.
|