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I agree with Michelle!
I was engaged for 9 months to a pig. It was all psychological. If he wasn't cheating on me, he made it look like he was...but then when I confronted him with the evidence it was a) I told her to write that because I knew you were snooping or b) You don't trust me this is all your fault.
Obviously now I know better...he lied to everyone. He put up a front and the MAN that I fell in love with turned into an immature boy that played mind games and to this day couldn't tell me why he wasn't happy anymore.
I don't believe that I lack self-confidence.
My problem was that I'm a perfectionist. I stick things out till the bitter end...and then some. My flaw was blindly loving. But ultimately it was my determination to GET THROUGH IT that kept me with him...
Maybe it was my fault for checking up on him.
Maybe he's right and I changed.
But then again, maybe not.
I finally woke up. The day he broke it off he didn't even do it to my face...I received a text message AT WORK simply stating "I'm not happy anymore. I think I need space to see if this is what I want" only days after discussing elpoing on his birthday in Las Vegas.
I snapped! He'd said stuff before that eluded me to believe it was downhill but I was sticking it out. However, 1 & 2nd time he said that, shame on him...3rd time shame on me!
So, in a sense, I think it all depends on the woman. I can see where some would have no courage to leave. I never in a million years thought I could have packed my crap up in the middle of the night and drive myself 12 1/2 hours home. I had enough~I just KNEW it wasn't getting any better than this.
I hope this perspective helps.
Good LUCK!
Hootie
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