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Oh wow that is quite a mess.
I know going through recruitment how much our Gamma Chi's missed their sisters. They told us that after the girls would run down the hill into their sorority on bid day, that when the Gamma Chi's would reveal that their sorority would pretty much be going up the hill to get them because they missed them so much. I saw it first hand in classes when I knew which gamma chi was in which and how she didn't sit next to her 2 sisters but after bid day they sat together and talked (it was so sweet). I think it's horrible to have to be like that for half a year. How do you kind of quit being friends with someone? I can hardly do it for 3 days, but a semester in college, wow that's harsh!
I actually knew my gamma chi's affiliation and had no problems talking with her. I loved her sorority but I told her I didn't think I would get invited back because I didn't click with some people and she understood that and offered several times that I talk with maybe another gamma chi if I felt uncomfortable in the least bit, but I didn't.
I honestly don't see the problem in knowing which sorority your gamma chi is in. I knew where most of them were because when you're an upperclassmen you see them in shirts like the current freshmen would for deferred rush. I guess maybe I'm a trusting person and can sense when someone is going to falter or "dirty rush," in this case.
I don't see a real perfect solution. I honestly like the idea of deferred rush because then the girls who are unsure about greek life, get a semester to see what it's like and decide if it's for them and get aclimated to college life. This year in recruitment I heard a few sororities talk about the girls who transferred and that might eleviate accepting girls who are going to leave after a semester. But, I honestly don't know.
Open question - wouldn't it be nice to go through recruitment with total outsiders? Like people who aren't greek at all, like advisors or something who take you from house to house and that way you could meet the gamma chi's on a real basis and so forth.
I guess until recruitment is "all on your own, XYZ's party is at 5 be there or be square," there is no picture perfect "rho chi" thing.
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