Melissa...
I have been following your journey through recruitment since the beginning of your postings, and like everyone else, my heart goes out to you. There is no doubt in my mind that you are a sweet young woman. As I read through your postings one thought came to mind, and that is that you may not have been yourself. You may have focused so much on wearing the right clothes and saying the right thing, and asking the right questions that each house did not get a chance to meet the REAL you. This is the only reason that comes to my mind as to why you did not recieve a bid. Please keep THIS in mind, though. The reason why your panhel recruitment book includes a disclosure about COB is to dicourage women from suiciding. I know for a fact that more houses than you think will be having informal recruitment parties this fall, so keep a look out for flyers and newspaper ads. I pledged my house through informal recruitment as a sophomore, and though I had not attended any recruitment parties in the past, I know that my house was the one for me.
Also, it is not pathetic to want to be a part of something as wonderful as the greek system. We are a system of outstanding individuals, and wonderful families and traditions. You wanting to be a part of something so wonderful and trying to attain something that you want is not pathetic. If you do not try, then you cannot succeed.
Another thing to keep in mind is that 250 girls went through formal recruitment at URI. The chances of every house remembering you is impossible. Do not feel as though going to them informally again would be embarrassing. I think you seeking what you want would make all of us proud.
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