[Kevin]

Hmm it's usually the woman that brings up the "State of the Relationship" talk...

-- Where are we now?
-- Where have we been?
-- Where are we going?

These things are never productive.... Think about this -- why would ANYONE respond positively? My girlfriend once tried to bring up these points and I (respectfully) requested that we not talk about them because it never comes out positive.

My advice -- without questioning things like "Where's the relationship going" (which at least for me is a scary thought) tackle INDIVIDUAL issues that you can solve and find common ground on. If you don't think there's common ground on an issue wait until there is and then bring it up in a non confrontational way. Make sure you're not trying to tell her that you're right and she's wrong. Discuss only what YOU feel and how her actions make you feel.

In the meantime (and until there's common ground) I would simply trust her. Perhaps this sounds a bit naive -- but she is the one that chooses to associate with these fellas. That is her choice... Presumably she's old enough at this point to make her own decisions. For me a relationship is nothing but trust. I don't say anything about who she hangs out with and I get mad as hell if she complains about who I hang out with. If you don't have trust what do you have? So just trust her... And if something goes bad it wasn't meant to be.