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RUgreek,
I COMPLETELY know where you are coming from. I kinda hinted at it in my first post cuz i went thru a similar experience. I did some things i wasn't too proud of as a pledge, but as the future classes got initiated, they started seeing that this new member program wasn't right even tho there were still people in the house that liked being mean to new members. i don't know if they were bitter from their past experience but they are still bitter for us making changes as alumnae... but i digress.
point is, we had a crap semester and after that we basically said, things need to change. so they have and now things are different and our girls are a lot happier with it.
But if she is willing to stick thru it and change the system, i think it would benefit it. however, if she is not happy and doesn't want to continue, she should have every right to leave and the sorority should know why. and if there are other NMs who feel the same, they should leave as well. it would make a huge statement and hopefully something will click in the org's mind that what they are doing isn't right and will change things up.
Sorry, i am trying to be optomistic. i don't know the personalities of the active members but i doubt they are all out for blood. (figure of speech!!!) If your class is able to stand up to the rest of the house and say "this isn't right..." it will affect the house.
Ok... i am starting to repeat myself.
Basically... do what makes you happy. this is a time to be selfish. and if your 'sisters' will shun you if you quit... they probably weren't worth having as friends to begin with.
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