Hey Folks,
Let me add a small opinion, and I don't mean to start a flame war here, just wanted to say something about this situation as well.
Hazing is wrong, but there is another option for her. Stick it out if it's nothing serious. Ok, I pledged and was hazed, and it sucked, but it presented a challenge for me and my group. Nothing serious, of course, went on, i.e. NO forced drinking or any naked crap, physical harm, etc. So, in my opinion, if you want to pledge, and there isn't a better choice out there, stick with it but be VERY cautious. Do not participate in activities you are not comfortable with. I'm telling you now, if someone tried to lay a hand on me or shove alcohol down my throat without my consent, I would have walked out and never looked back.
I'm not in her situation, I don't know the circumstances of the social life on the campus, but if she thinks she can get in and change things, then it can't be wrong to support her decision to continue. I'm not trying to send someone off to get hurt, but everyone here is quick to yell, bitch, and scream for this person to runaway and get this group in trouble. How exactly is that going to stop the next group that pops up, or save the next pledge group?
Once I was in, I was like, "there is no way I'm going to stand by and let this house do again what they did to me" and if it wasn't for a select few before me, things would never have toned down. Sure enough, things did change, and nobody really cared. Most of it was out of boredom and lack of imagination
People haze because they can't come up with smarter productive uses for pledges or the program.
My point is simple, if and only if this is not the super-crazy-waiting-for-a-tragedy-type sorority, then it's not a bad situation for someone like her to pledge. If the pledgemaster respects and looks out for the pledges, then things will get better once she's in. If you want to attack hazing, you bring it down from the inside out, otherwise another outbreak with another group will occur (sounds like a disease, doesn't it?). Just consider what I said, but above all else, watch out for yourself and don't do anything you are not comfortable with as everyone else suggested. That's #1, but I wouldn't runaway scared until that choice comes up.
That's all, goodluck and keep us posted,
RUgreek