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Hey, y'all...
I actually just recently approached this question with my boyfriend, too. I'm in a sorority (obviously!) and he's in a fraternity. My question to him was how much "me and him" time I should give at fraternity functions (most recently, tailgates). The answer we found was this... He has his friends and I have mine, and even though we're together, we don't have to be glued. I love the guys in his fraternity. I honestly get along with all the ones that I know. So, when I'm at the tent, I go and talk to different brothers, and he goes and talks to his friends, too. He makes sure that I'm all right, happy, and that I don't need anything. But other than that, we have our own separate lives. Like, he went to happy hour without me. And I went out without him that same night, then came over to see him later on. I see girls who are glued to their fraternity boyfriends, and don't have any life without them, and I don't want to be that type of person. The thing is, I'm with him because I'm crazy about the guy. I think he's wonderful. But I have priorities. And we both make sure that our priorities are in order. I would never make him miss something fraternity to come see me. That's ridiculous. The fraternity came first, and comes first in priorities. I mean, granted, if he misses something important because there's a mixer, I may just be a little peeved, but it's all relative. We have our time with just the two of us, we have time at functions where we do the whole, social, "Hi, this is my girlfriend" kind of deal, and we have time where we lead our separate lives. This, to me, is the perfect situation.
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DG
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