I can say I kinda understand where you're coming from. My soror only got 7 woman during formal recruitment this semester. Quota was 18.. (which is HUGE for my school) and the two chapters that took quota don't even have enough girls to have one on one big/lils.... so I can see what your saying about not getting to know/handle the amount of new members... I think the chapters at my school that took quota are going to have a hard time doing that... however they did nothing wrong in taking quota since that's what they are entitled to. and I don't think they necessarily did anything more "right" than you because I know my chapter did everything "right" during rush. We planned our parties very well, we greeted woman warmly and treated them with respect and showed them our best side. Unfortunately if your chapter was already smaller than the rest... a lot of women look at that when they are going through. If your chapter feels you put your hearts into rush, hold your heads high and be proud that you will get to know your pledge class and your sisterhood is going to grow stronger !!!!
