I'm sorry you had a bad Recruitment experience!! Honestly, Recruitment is very hard on both ends. The sororities have to cut girls, sometimes 50 a day at bigger campuses!!! I know this recruitment our largest sorority had to cut 35 girls the first day after only speading 20 minuites with them! So sometimes some of the best girls get cut, for silly reasons. The age difference may be a factor too. i am a Phi Sigma and yes we are allowed to have grads in our chapters. But many sororities are not allowed to have second degree seekers and grads in chapters. It depends on the sororities' national policy. Also chapter need people who will be in the chapter for longer than a year or two, so normally freshmen and soph. are taking before older women in formal Recruitment. I know this sucks but it's formal recruitment. It's not the popular issue when it comes to getting a bid. It is Matching up with a sorority that you fit into! I wasn't the most popular girl in high school, But when i got to college things change!! People started seeing me in a different light. Now, i know almost all the greeks and they know me. My sorority idn't the most popular, we are just the down to earth ones that like to party A lot!! I have great friends and i have friends in the best fraternities. I never thought in high school it would be this way, But people change and you can't think about the Pasts!!!!That may have harmed you in Recruitment, if you think you are too unpopular to be in a group than it shows!! I hate to say it you have go in with the attitude -- Yes, i want to be in a sorority, but if i don't get in then i will be fine cause i love myself for who i am! If there are COB's after Formal Recruitment, then i would check them out. If the sororitties see you interested in the sororities and get to spend more time with you i am sure good things will happen. We had a girl we had to cut at Formal Come out to our COB event and we got to know her better and made a special status for her because of her grades( at our school --the girls MUST have the min. GPA for your sorority.)She was a half a point away!Don't get down about being cut!!!! I know you are probably a great person!! i hope you feel better!!
Greek love,
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