I think that feeling uncomfortable during a rush like you described is completely normal. I personally feel that this type of rush isn't necessarily the best because not only are you already nervous about meeting all these girls but you have to worry yourself sick about talking to these guys. (you never know what guy you are going to talk to that one of the rushers may have a crush on, or may be their ex-boyfriend) I think this puts way too much stress on the rushees. And regardless of what people say the girls will judge you on how you act around these very hot guys. Some girls may feel threatened...like if you are prettier than them they may not want you because you will get all the attention from guys. I know, it is sad that people are that way, but you have to face reality...girls are usually always in constant competition with one another and that's just the way it is. My best advice to you on this is play it cool during these rush parties where you do interact with the fraternities. Try to hang out with the girls as much as possible...even if you look like a tag-a-long. Be friendly with the guys, but not overly friendly as you may give the rushers the wrong impression of you.
As far as mentioning to the rushers that this particular way of rushing isn't necessarily the most effective is probably a bad idea. Wait to voice such a strong opinion until you are a part of the sisterhood. Why?? You never know who came up with the idea to corespond guys into rush. You definatly don't won't to get on anyone's bad side and make them think that you are going to be the type of person who thinks EVERYTHING has to be your way!!! You need to save that until you are one of the sisters...because then, your opinions will be looked at much differently and taken into consideration. Also you will less likely hear the comment "oh my gosh, she isn't even one of our sisters yet and she is already trying to change stuff about our rush".
I hope this will help you a little bit!!! Best of luck during rush!!!
~Anchored in DG~
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